My three-year old son just entered my office and declared, “Emma hit my head, just like this - bang, bang bang,” as he demonstrated with his hand what she did. She informed us (from the next room) that in reality, he was the one who had hit her (with his latest favorite utensil - a spatula, which he alternatively calls a spatula, statue and statula).

Why do I share this story?

Because it reminds me of the many times I have sat in a meeting, or been part of a discussion where accusations were made. The person begins leveling their accusation and they declare exactly what it is the other person has done to offend them. Most of the time, the other person (who is sometimes me) looks in disbelief as they are accused of doing what this person has been guilty of themselves.

Everyone is guilty of this. When asked we were speeding, we point out the person who passed us and ask why they aren’t getting a ticket, etc. The problem is, we don’t want to acknowledge our own offense, so we deflect. This is what Adam did in the garden, so why are we surprised? (look at Genesis 3)

So, when someone comes to me and says, “this person has been doing thus-and-so,” I often think they are probably guilty of that very thing themselves.

Why does this matter?

Because Christians are called to a higher standard. Jesus was accused of subversion, tax evasion and treason (Luke 23:2). Paul refused to argue with his accusers (Acts 24:12). We are not to accuse falsely, even when we are falsely accused (1 Peter 2:12). In the end, the accuser of the brethren (Satan) will be cast down (Rev. 12:10).

Don’t accuse people. And don’t be surprised when you are accused falsely. Remember your position in Christ and count it worthy to share in his suffering (1 Cor. 1:7; 1 Pet. 3:14-17).